When you are getting divorced, your head is filled with legal questions and financial questions. It is difficult to think and concentrate during this emotional time. But if you have children, you need to think about how the divorce will affect them. And figure out how you can help your children. Here are some things you can do:
1. USE THE COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE PROCESS.
During the Collaborative Divorce Process, the parties are guided by their attorneys, and a neutral professional team who can answer questions as they arise. The mental health professional can guide you on how to help your children. And figure out what works best for your children.
2. DON’T ARGUE WITH YOUR SPOUSE IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN.
It can be difficult but DON’T argue with your spouse in front of your children. They are not mature enough to understand things may be said in anger which aren’t true. And remember they can hear you too, even when the doors are shut. Instead, only discuss the divorce when your children are not home.
3. DON’T TALK ABOUT THE LEGAL PROCEEDINGS WITH YOUR CHILDREN.
This is your divorce, not theirs. They do not need to know about any of the Court proceedings. These are complex matters for adults and their attorneys. If your children are adults, still don’t discuss the legal proceedings with them. It is best to preserve attorney client confidentiality.
4. DECIDE WHEN AND HOW TO TELL YOUR CHILDREN THAT YOU ARE GETTING DIVORCED.
Be mindful of the right time to tell your children that you are getting a divorce. Don’t tell them before a big event like final exams, sports game, or dance recital. Telling them could jeopardize their performance. Don’t take it upon yourself to tell the children without your spouse’s knowledge. Make sure that you and your spouse are both ready.
5. CONSIDER GETTING YOUR CHILDREN A THERAPIST.
Your children may have questions or feelings about what is happening. But they just don’t have the words to express what they are thinking or feeling. Or they believe talking to you will upset you. A trained therapist is better qualified to answer your children’s questions and help them process their feelings.
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